Monkey See Monkey Do

Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like a man who looks at his face in a mirror and after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. James 1:23-24

In the Gazette newspaper in Colorado Springs some years ago told the story of a lady giving up smoking for a very unusual reason. This woman quit because of her pet macaw. She had this beautiful blue and gold macaw; they are worth a few thousand dollars. This bird had developed a persistent cough.

A veterinarian checked the macaw and determined that it didn’t have pneumonia or psittacosis, two of the possibilities that worried her. The final diagnosis was that the macaw was not ill at all, but just imitating the cough of its cigarette-smoking owner. The woman finally quit only when she realized, through her macaw, how bad she actually sounded herself.

It is a sad fact of human nature that we can be totally blind to our own faults, at the same time clearly seeing those same faults in others. I can be very concerned about your cough, not even knowing I myself might have pneumonia. I can clearly see the mote in your eye precisely because I have so much practice with the thing that has been floating around in mine, without my even knowing it. This is a lot like what psychologists call “projection”, in which people ‘project” their own motives and ways of looking at life on those around them. A suspicious person thinks everyone is out to get them; a manipulative person just “knows” that other people are trying to cheat and trick themselves; and so on.

The Bible just calls it “sin”. In Romans 2:1, for instance, is the warning that this kind of “projection” invites judgment: “You, therefore have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge the other, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things”. By “same things”, Paul didn’t mean that everyone who passes judgment on a murderer himself had murdered, but only was guilty of the same kind of lawlessness as his conviction. Even so, according to the Bible, the light will soon spotlight every pot calling a kettle black, and both will be in for a thorough and painful cleansing.

The macaw has a couple of lessons to teach us:

First is the tip-off that what bugs us most in others may be our own special creepiness. If someone’s bad habit gets under your skin, could it be that the “me” already under that skin has the same problem? Often, my worst gripes are reserved to what grips me most.

Secondly, the other lesson of the macaw is of course the power of a bad example. Macaws, parrots, children, even adults will copy in us in what may be concealed to us. In our blindness, we can lead many people down the primrose path to a cough, a bad habit, or worse, without our even knowing we are on the path ourselves. Our weaknesses may be multiplying in those who follow us.

Sobering thoughts and ones that should make us pay serious attention anytime someone does find a mote in our otherwise nearly-perfect, if surprisingly blind eye.

Not only monkeys see and do, but many others who follow you.

May we be sensitive to our own shortcomings today, Lord, as we seem in our fallen humanity toward those of others?